When an Agitated Spouse Says You Are Not Safe Around the Children
When a husband becomes highly agitated and begins telling his wife that she is not safe around their children—particularly when there is a history of delusional thinking—the situation requires compassion, discernment, and a strong focus on safety. The first instinct may be to defend yourself: “That's ridiculous. I've never hurt our children. Why would you even say that?” While understandable, lengthy explanations and arguments may not help when someone is extremely agitated o
When You Can’t Remember the Details: Social Anxiety, Memory, and Comparison
Have you ever been talking with someone who easily remembers names, dates, conversations, movie plots, or small details from years ago—and found yourself thinking, “Why can’t I remember things like that?” For someone struggling with social anxiety, forgetting a detail can become much more than a memory issue. It can trigger self-consciousness, comparison, shame, and fear of being negatively evaluated. Instead of simply thinking, “I forgot,” the anxious mind may conclude: “Som
Journaling Questions for an Enneagram 9 Grieving Distance, Rejection, and Neglect in Marriage
These questions are designed to help a Peacemaker make room for grief without disappearing inside it—and to reconnect with their own voice, needs, and sense of worth. What am I actually grieving in my marriage right now? Is it the relationship itself, or the closeness, affection, friendship, attention, or emotional safety I hoped we would have? Where have I minimized my hurt to keep the peace? What feelings emerge when I allow myself to say, “This really has hurt me”? What do
