Christi Young, LPC

A Christian Counseling Reflection on Grief, Regret, and Grace There’s a kind of grief that doesn’t always get a funeral. It’s the grief of dreams that didn’t come true — the family that didn’t turn out as you hoped, the relationships that aren’t as close as you imagined, the warmth you thought would be there when the children were grown that somehow never arrived. This grief lives quietly in the background of many hearts. It’s not about losing people entirely — it’s about los

Regret has a way of showing up uninvited. One memory triggers another, and suddenly you’re back in the middle of a marriage that ended — replaying every mistake, every angry moment, every word you wish you could take back. When regret meets anger, it can feel like a prison: stuck between “I should have done better” and “Why did this happen to me?” But as followers of Christ, we are invited into a different story — one where grace becomes bigger than our past. 1️⃣ Regret Revea

A Christian counseling guide with research, tools, and theology Adoption is a profound “yes” to family. It’s also a multi-layered adjustment—legally, emotionally, spiritually, and neurologically. Parents and children may carry grief, questions about identity and belonging, and the effects of early adversity. With attachment-focused, trauma-informed care and a strong community, families can build safety, connection, and resilience over time. PMC What the research consistently

When parents hold impossibly high standards and fail to offer warmth or grace, the effects can echo far into adulthood. Many adults raised in these environments carry an internalized belief that love must be earned through achievement or flawlessness. Over time, this belief fuels self-criticism, anxiety, and a sense of emotional distance from both self and others. Understanding the Root Perfectionist parents often fear failure themselves or equate worth with performance. Chil

Discover the Faith-Based Mental Wellness Workbook Series—a collection of beautifully designed guides blending Scripture, therapy, and reflection. Created by a Christian counselor, each workbook includes journaling prompts, art exercises, and devotionals to help you heal, grow, and find peace in God. Explore topics like identity, anxiety, relationships, grief, and purpose. Perfect for daily quiet time, personal growth, or small groups. Find your next step toward renewal and fa

A Christian Counseling Perspective on Boundaries, Faith, and Parenting Through Uncertainty When a woman takes the brave step of giving her alcoholic husband a contract—spelling out what must change for the family to heal—she often feels both relief and fear. Relief that the truth is finally spoken. Fear of what comes next. This anxiety is normal. It’s the body’s response to courage. You’ve moved from living in survival mode to standing in truth. Even though this step honors G

Every child absorbs more than words from a parent — we absorb the atmosphere of their heart.If a mother has lived her life with the belief that “men will never really be there,” her daughter may inherit that quiet ache as her own worldview.Even if the daughter grows up in faith, marries, or builds a life of independence, the shadow of her mother’s despair can linger beneath her strength. This is not rebellion or weakness — it is the natural passing down of emotional DNA.But i

Every marriage begins with two stories merging — two family systems, two sets of expectations, two definitions of loyalty. And sometimes, those stories clash quietly in the space between husband and wife. She wants to stay connected — to see him reach out, to see that his heart is open and relational.He, however, feels something different. Each call home leaves him drained, misunderstood, or even unseen. So he stops calling. And now the silence between him and his family beco

There are some heartbreaks that don’t fade just because time passes. You’re not crying because you miss the person—you’re mourning the impact . You grieve the storm that swept through your life, not the one who brought it. The tears come not from longing for reunion, but from sadness that something within you had to die to make room for peace again. It’s grief for the way your heart was broken open. For the months you spent holding hope in one hand and confusion in the other.

Finding God’s Steady Hand When You Don’t Know What to Do A mother sits in her car outside the clinic, her thoughts racing. Should she get the flu shot? What if it helps? What if it harms? She feels the weight of responsibility pressing on her chest — not just for herself, but for her child. It’s not only about the vaccine. It’s about fear — that quiet, aching fear that asks, “What if I fail to protect what I love most?” In moments like this, we long for peace — not the kind t