Christi Young, LPC

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Sometimes the greatest obstacle in our lives is not another person or a difficult circumstance—it is a pattern within ourselves. Self-sabotage happens when our choices repeatedly interfere with what we genuinely want or value. We may desire healthy relationships but push people away. We may want peace but continually return to conflict. We may pray for change but avoid the uncomfortable steps that change requires. We may want to succeed but procrastinate, quit, or convince ou

Couples can spend months preparing for a wedding and surprisingly little time preparing for the marriage that follows it. They discuss venues, dresses, flowers, photographs, food, invitations, and honeymoons. Yet some of the most important conversations of their lives may remain unfinished: How will we handle money? What happens when we strongly disagree? What do we expect from each other emotionally? How involved will our families be? What does commitment mean to each of us?

Anxiety often begins quietly. One concerning thought leads to another. We start imagining what might happen, replaying what already happened, or trying to solve a problem that cannot be solved in this moment. Before long, we are no longer simply thinking about a concern—we are caught in an anxiety spiral. One of the most helpful skills we can develop is learning to recognize the spiral before it gains momentum. You may notice your thoughts speeding up, repeatedly asking “What

When a relationship has been strained for a long time, communication can become one of the first places where the damage shows. A person may think, Why should I speak gently when I don't feel gently toward them? Why should I make an effort when they haven't? Those feelings are understandable, but the way we communicate doesn't merely express the condition of a relationship—it can also contribute to its future condition. Christian communication isn't about pretending everythin

When a husband becomes highly agitated and begins telling his wife that she is not safe around their children—particularly when there is a history of delusional thinking—the situation requires compassion, discernment, and a strong focus on safety. The first instinct may be to defend yourself: “That's ridiculous. I've never hurt our children. Why would you even say that?” While understandable, lengthy explanations and arguments may not help when someone is extremely agitated o

Have you ever been talking with someone who easily remembers names, dates, conversations, movie plots, or small details from years ago—and found yourself thinking, “Why can’t I remember things like that?” For someone struggling with social anxiety, forgetting a detail can become much more than a memory issue. It can trigger self-consciousness, comparison, shame, and fear of being negatively evaluated. Instead of simply thinking, “I forgot,” the anxious mind may conclude: “Som

These questions are designed to help a Peacemaker make room for grief without disappearing inside it—and to reconnect with their own voice, needs, and sense of worth. What am I actually grieving in my marriage right now? Is it the relationship itself, or the closeness, affection, friendship, attention, or emotional safety I hoped we would have? Where have I minimized my hurt to keep the peace? What feelings emerge when I allow myself to say, “This really has hurt me”? What do

After a difficult chapter in marriage, you may know that you love your spouse but wonder, “Why don’t I feel the way I used to?” That can be frightening. But a decrease in loving feelings does not automatically mean love is gone or the marriage cannot recover. When a marriage has been filled with stress, conflict, disappointment, financial pressure, parenting struggles, depression, disconnection, or repeated misunderstandings, the heart can become protective. You may stop reac

Sometimes anxiety is not simply worry. It is your mind and body signaling, “This is more than I know how to carry right now.” Work stress can accumulate quietly. Deadlines, difficult interactions, responsibility, uncertainty, long hours, and the pressure to perform can keep your nervous system activated. Eventually, you may notice racing thoughts, irritability, difficulty concentrating, muscle tension, exhaustion, a pounding heart, shortness of breath, or a sudden feeling tha