Christi Young, LPC

Healing from the mother wound isn’t about blame—it’s about awareness and gentle repair. The “mother wound” describes the pain that can form when our earliest emotional needs weren’t met in the way we needed them to be. This can show up as perfectionism, people-pleasing, guilt, or a deep sense of not being “enough.” The journey toward healing involves acknowledging what was lost, tending to what still hurts, and learning to nurture yourself with compassion. The following exerc

He’s home. The car pulls in, the door opens, and there’s a moment of relief — but also disappointment. You love that he’s here, but you can see it in his face: he’s drained. Another long day. Five hours of sleep the night before. He tries to engage, but exhaustion wins. You’re tired too. Between your own full-time job, the kids, and everything in between, life feels like one continuous cycle of doing what needs to be done. You’re partners, but lately, it feels like you’re jus

“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” — Proverbs 31:25 Many Christian women silently carry the weight of being both wife and mother while anxiety pulls at their peace. Between caring for children, nurturing a marriage, managing a home, and often working outside of it — the inner world can begin to feel like a constant state of alert. Thoughts race: Am I doing enough? Am I being a good mother? A good wife?  The pressure to be everything

Christian Counseling Reflection Friendship is a sacred space — a place where love, loyalty, and shared faith are meant to deepen connection. Yet even in the most sincere friendships, tension can surface when two people’s values don’t fully align. Sometimes it’s not betrayal or neglect that causes pain, but simple difference — one friend feels hurt by what another values, prioritizes, or believes. When Conviction Feels Like Rejection A Christian’s values often stem from deep c

“Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” — Romans 12:15 True friendship involves more than shared interests or time spent together. At its heart, friendship is a sacred space of emotional attunement  — the ability to be present, sensitive, and responsive to another person’s emotional world. In Christian counseling, we understand this as part of how God calls believers to embody empathy, compassion, and mutual care. What Is Emotional Attunement? Emotional

When a husband has broken trust through addiction and infidelity, a wife often carries two griefs at once: the pain of what happened, and the ache of what has not yet been restored. Even after sobriety or confession, the emotional recovery may lag behind. Many wives find themselves still managing the home, the hurt, and the hope—while their husband struggles to show empathy or take full responsibility. It’s a lonely place to stand, especially when faith calls you to forgive b

Sex within marriage is meant to be a place of safety, joy, and mutual giving. Yet for many husbands who experience physical limitations, chronic pain, or anxiety about performance, intimacy can quietly become a source of stress instead of comfort. The mind begins to overanalyze, the body tenses, and what was meant to be a moment of closeness can feel like a test. But the truth of Christian marriage is this: intimacy was never meant to be measured by performance, but by presen

A Christian Counseling Reflection on Grief, Regret, and Grace There’s a kind of grief that doesn’t always get a funeral. It’s the grief of dreams that didn’t come true — the family that didn’t turn out as you hoped, the relationships that aren’t as close as you imagined, the warmth you thought would be there when the children were grown that somehow never arrived. This grief lives quietly in the background of many hearts. It’s not about losing people entirely — it’s about los

Regret has a way of showing up uninvited. One memory triggers another, and suddenly you’re back in the middle of a marriage that ended — replaying every mistake, every angry moment, every word you wish you could take back. When regret meets anger, it can feel like a prison: stuck between “I should have done better” and “Why did this happen to me?” But as followers of Christ, we are invited into a different story — one where grace becomes bigger than our past. 1️⃣ Regret Revea

A Christian counseling guide with research, tools, and theology Adoption is a profound “yes” to family. It’s also a multi-layered adjustment—legally, emotionally, spiritually, and neurologically. Parents and children may carry grief, questions about identity and belonging, and the effects of early adversity. With attachment-focused, trauma-informed care and a strong community, families can build safety, connection, and resilience over time. PMC What the research consistently