Guarding Your Story: A Boundary Rooted in Wisdom

Have you ever been caught off guard by someone’s intrusive question? Maybe they asked about your finances: “Is your car paid off?” Or about your relationships, childhood, or sexual history. Their curiosity might have felt like a spotlight you didn’t ask for.

The truth is, prying is rarely about you—it’s about the other person. Sometimes it comes from comparison, as if your story could measure their worth. Sometimes it’s boredom, gossip, or even unresolved pain they haven’t faced themselves. And sometimes, people simply don’t understand boundaries because they grew up in families where everyone’s business was “shared business.”

But here’s the good news: you are not obligated to hand over your story. Your life is sacred. Your heart is worth protecting. And God’s Word gives us permission to do just that.

 “Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: You should mind your own business and work with your hands.” — 1 Thessalonians 4:11

 “A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.” — Proverbs 11:13

When someone pries, you can respond calmly and kindly without giving away what is private. Try phrases like:

 “I keep that part of my life between me and God.”

 “Thanks for asking, but I’d rather not talk about that.”

 “I don’t discuss finances/relationships, but I’d love to hear how you are doing.”

 “That’s not a topic I talk about, but I appreciate your interest.”

Short, clear statements protect your heart without hostility. And if someone keeps pressing, it’s okay to be direct: “I value our relationship, but those questions make me uncomfortable. Please respect that.”

Boundaries are not rejection—they are protection. They are fences that keep what is precious safe, while allowing connection with those who have proven themselves trustworthy.

 Reflection: Where in your life do you need to draw a firmer boundary? Who are the people who respect your privacy—and how can you nurture those life-giving relationships?