Protecting Your Health: Wise Choices for Preventing STIs and Building Healthy Relationships

In counseling, we encourage honest, respectful conversations about sexual health because your physical and emotional well-being are deeply connected. One of the wisest choices you can make for your future is to take intentional steps to prevent sexually transmitted infections (STIs). STIs like HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, and herpes are common, and many can spread even when no symptoms are present. But you have the power to make decisions that protect your body, your heart, and your peace of mind.

The most effective way to prevent STIs is through abstinence — choosing not to engage in sexual activity. Abstinence completely eliminates the risk of STI transmission and unplanned pregnancy. It can also offer a sense of clarity and safety, especially when you want to wait for a committed, mutually monogamous relationship where both partners have been tested. Many people choose abstinence because of their faith, values, or desire for emotional security, and in counseling we honor that as a strong and thoughtful choice.

If you choose to be sexually active, using protection consistently and correctly is key to reducing STI risk. External or internal condoms, as well as dental dams for oral sex, act as barriers that help prevent the spread of infections. Even if you trust your partner, it’s important to remember that most STIs show no visible signs. Protecting yourself every time — not just occasionally — is part of taking wise care of your health. Regular STI testing for both you and your partner is another responsible step.

Beyond physical protection, healthy relationships also mean having the freedom to say no. In a respectful, caring relationship, you should feel safe setting boundaries about sexual activity. Saying no doesn’t mean rejecting your partner — it means you’re honoring your body, your values, and what feels right for you. If someone pressures or shames you, that’s a signal to reflect on whether the relationship is truly supportive. You have the right to move at your own pace and choose what’s best for you.

It’s important to remember that emotional satisfaction doesn’t depend on sexual activity. Healthy relationships can thrive on other forms of connection, like sharing meaningful conversations, spending quality time together, offering support, laughing, creating memories, and showing affection through kind words, thoughtful gestures, and physical closeness that doesn’t involve sex. Many couples and individuals find deep emotional intimacy through these ways of connecting — building trust, friendship, and love in ways that feel safe and fulfilling. Beyond that, there are also healthy, non-sexual ways to meet needs for excitement, adventure, and exploration. Trying new activities together, traveling to new places, working on creative projects, or learning new skills as a team can bring fresh energy and joy to a relationship. These shared experiences can strengthen your bond, provide a sense of discovery, and offer meaningful connection without relying on sexual activity.

Your sexual health is part of your whole-person wellness. Whether you choose abstinence, safe sex practices, or are still figuring out what’s right for you, you deserve to feel informed, confident, and supported. A counselor can help you explore your options, strengthen your boundaries, and build relationships that honor both your body and your heart.

Reflection: "True connection begins when I honor my own worth, set kind boundaries, and choose what brings peace to both my body and my heart.”